Divorce is almost always a dramatic experience. Emotions run high and you can find yourself trying to make sense of a world which you thought you had figured out. It is important to protect yourself, to ensure you can get through the divorce, rebuild your life, and be happy. Please consider taking the following steps to help you navigate what lies ahead:
1. Change your passwords: Your e-mail account, bank account, and cell phone contain confidential information. Change all of your passwords for your e-mail address, online bank accounts, and other important accounts. Additionally, create a log in so that your cell phone is not easily accessible.
2. Plan financially: Start a separate bank account which only you have access to. Apply for a credit card to use for important expenses. Gather family members and close friends, and plan the steps you need to take, especially if you are financially dependent on your spouse.
3. Think about what matters the most: Think about what matters the most, and whether you think your spouse will be open to making agreements with you. Not every single thing that comes up in a divorce matters. Prioritize what you want, and think about what your spouse will want.
4. Avoid making big decisions: Avoiding making a large purchases or taking that big vacation you have been thinking about. While you do want to find ways to relax and maintain your peace of mind, you should strive to conserve your resources in case the divorce is contested.
5. Find an attorney who will be a good fit: The attorney-client relationship is very important and plays a big role in the divorce. Be sure to find an attorney who is a good fit for you and is on the same page as you in terms of your goals and how you want to achieve them.
If you keep these tips in mind, you should help to avoid some of the traps for the unwary that can spring up in a divorce.